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​​VANQUISHING YOUR INNER BULLY
PART IV



















By Elana Laham © 2018 Elana Laham

   Did you know that your inner bully has its own mentality? It’s called “The Victim Mentality”.  

   [See the section entitled, “The Victim Legacy” in the web page called, “Emotional Bullying” in the BullCrap Busters website for more details about the Victim Mentality.]

   Your inner bully uses the victim mentality to override your own mentality in order to make you believe you are helpless, hopeless, and useless even when you do fight back against bullying. The main way your inner bully does this to you is by exploiting the outer bully(s) tactic of HIDING the hurt or harm you inflict upon the outer bully(s) when you have to defend yourself against the outer bully(s) offensive actions towards you, and by exploiting the Bully Culture’s tactic of making us all live in a world in which the outer bully gets into NO TROUBLE for bullying others.  

   If the inner bully can make you believe that you have NO IMPACT on the outer bully then the inner bully can make you believe in the victim mentality of “What is the use of fighting back against bullying?!” 

   The following real life scenario called, “Gone Postal” illustrates how you will overcome the Victim Mentality of the Inner Bully by comprehending, understanding, and knowing that you are NO VICTIM if you fight back against bullying:

   On October 11, 2017, I went to the Lev Karmiel Post Office located in the Lev Karmiel shopping center on the corner of S’derot Nise’i Yisrael and Morad Hagay streets. E-mail: internet@postil.com. Website: http://www.israelpost.co.il.

   I told the clerk, whose name was, NATALIE, that I was there to pick up four packages and I gave her the Israel Post Delivery Notice that was in my post office box.

   Natalie brought the four parcels to the counter. As usual, I told her I had to see the packages before signing the Israel Post Delivery Notice to make sure the tracking numbers corresponded to the packages. She pushed the four parcels under the window towards me. 

   After I finished checking the four packages, I signed for them and began to return them to Natalie. I put one of the parcels in my hand and started to hand it back to her. Instead of taking it back she shoved my own package back at me while it was still in my hand.  

   Then, she started yelling at me in Hebrew. My Hebrew is limited so I did not know what she was saying, and she does not speak English. So I told her in Hebrew, "I do not understand what you are saying. I do not know a lot of Hebrew.” So she may as well have been talking to a deaf person. She had no reply.

   I did not report her aggressive contact with me to the manager, whose name is Matka, because I believed he was not there that day since I did not see him at any of the counter windows.

   But I was not going to be victimized by her bullying.  

   So, I returned to Natalie's counter window. A female customer was standing there. So I waited my turn. The female customer was finished and had left the counter window with her back turned away from us. I told Natalie in my limited Hebrew that, "It is forbidden to do this to people!" And I shoved one of my packages against her shoulder. Suddenly, she grabbed my parcel and tried to take it away from me even though I had already signed for it. But I was able to hang onto it without any difficulty.  

   Then, she started yelling at me in Hebrew. My Hebrew is limited so I did not know what she was saying, and she does not speak English. So I told her in Hebrew, "I do not understand what you are saying. I do not know a lot of Hebrew.” So she may as well have been talking to a deaf person. She had no reply.

   Now the female customer who had left the counter window with her back turned away from us, upon hearing Natalie yell at me in Hebrew turned back around, faced me, and started yelling at me in Hebrew. She had heard me explain to Natalie in Hebrew that it is forbidden to make hostile contact with patrons. But she did nothing and she said nothing. She did not see earlier what had happened between Natalie and myself, either, which was that I did not start the fight Natalie did. And from what I was able to see, she did not even see what had just happened between Natalie and myself.  

   But I was not going to be victimized by her bullying.  

   After she yelled at me I told her in Hebrew, “You are a wicked person protecting a wicked person.” Her first reply was to no longer face me. Instead, she stood at Natalie's counter window with her back towards me. Only her head was turned to the right in my direction but without looking at me. And she said in a low voice, “Lalala”. I was facing her and mocked her reply by saying in a high voice, "Lalala" back at her. Again, I told her in Hebrew, “You are a wicked person protecting a wicked person.” Her second reply was to no longer face me with either her body or her head. Instead, she stood at Natalie's counter window with her back towards me. And all I heard from her was silence.  

   Now Natalie was smiling about all the trouble she was making. So I said to her in Hebrew, "Kol Tov", which means, "All is well by me." It wiped the smile right off of her face. 

   After I communicated to Natalie as best as I was able to that it is forbidden to shove packages at people she called the manager. Apparently, he was there all along. When he came out to my surprise he listened to me first. As best as I was able to by using body language, as I had done with Natalie, I communicated to the manager, Matka, that Natalie had attacked me with my own package. After I finished what I was saying Natalie started screaming in Hebrew right in front of her manager. I did not know what she was saying and she was making a fool out of herself right in front of her boss. So I left. 

   On October 15, 2017, I went back to the Lev Post Office to attend to some unfinished postal business. I noticed that “Gone Postal” clerk Natalie had a deflated defeated expression on her face.

   I had more postal business to attend to. Matka the Manager of the Lev Post Office was nice to me. He smiled at me. He said "Hello" and "Bye" to me. And conducted himself in his usual professional manner towards me. I said "Hello" and "Bye" and I left.  

   However, to this very day, Natalie tries to HIDE the pain that she inflicted upon herself by being a trouble maker. But to no avail.  For she continues to display her unjustified anger towards me the trouble breaker by refusing to put the Israel Post delivery notices into my Post Office box. However, it does not matter, as I have the tracking numbers for my parcels and I retrieve my packages from Manager, Matka.

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   Initially, I did not know why the female stranger was behaving in a hostile and nasty manner towards me. So my initial reaction was shock.  

  And...

  Initially, I did not know why Natalie was behaving in a hostile and nasty manner towards me. So my initial reaction was shock.

   Being that I was confused, my inner bully was now attacking me full force with the following victim mentality messages:

   “You are useless. No one else gets victimized by bullying as much as you do.” 

   “You are hopeless. “You are to blame for being a victim of bullying.” 

   “You are helpless. “You cannot even get the bully into trouble for bullying you.”

   But I was not going to be victimized by my inner bully’s bullying.  

   My first realization was I get bullied more than most people not because I am a victim of bullying but since I fight back against bullying. Unless you are a “conformed ass” conformist of the sick program of the Bully Culture you will be singled out as a target for bullying more than most of so-called society’s members.  

   So my first reply to my inner bully was I am USEFUL because “one lone individual” is threatening the Bully Culture’s very existence since I am a resistance against bullying I am a force to be reckoned with. 

   My second realization was that the female stranger was not interested in being a good Samaritan or minding her own business. All she was interested in being was a bad “Slam-Error-A-Ton” by joining in with Natalie to victimize me with bullying being that she, herself, is a bully.  

   So my second reply back to my inner bully was I am HOPEFUL because I am willing to fight back against bullying in spite of the fact that people refuse to rescue me from bullying since people are bully(s) themselves.

   My third realization was that Natalie will forever be upset with me because she started a fight with me regarding the Hebrew language but since I ended the fight with her by showing her that I, a foreigner, knew something about her native language that she did not know. 

   [See the section entitled, “Scenario #2” in the web page called, “Updates 8/10/17” in the BullCrap Busters website for more details.]

   So my third reply back to my inner bully was I am HELPFUL because I am able to punish the bully and get away with punishing the bully all by myself without any assistance from any one since the bully is so “hyper diaper” sensitive to the bully(s) own pain that the bully invites upon the bully(s) own self that the bully will never forget and always remember the pain I inflicted upon the bully for bullying me.

   [Reader’s Note: The Bully will do three things to his/her unsuspecting Victims, a) Gang up on them in front of their face and/or b) Gossip about them behind their back, and/or c) Humiliate them in public. The Bully is not willing to hate you all by the bully’s lonesome self. The Bully must recruit others to also hate you, which is the reason why a Bully is also a Coward.]

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   For more information on the workings of the inner bully see the following web pages of the BullCrap Busters website:

   [See the Mental Bullying web page of the BullCrap Busters website for more details about the workings of the inner bully].


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