KNOW WHEN TO HOLD 'EM
KNOW WHEN TO FOLD 'EM
By Elana Laham © 2015 Elana Laham
When we learn through trial and error real life experiences something NEW about how to fight back against BULLYING we pass that information onto you. [See the How to Fight Back web page of the BullCrapBusters website for more details on how to fight back against bullying].
For those of you who have made the decision that you are going to liberate yourself from the bully coward, bystander/onlooker, and victim sick social roles that the Bully Culture establishment/regime has subjected you to, this web page is dedicated and devoted to bringing you UPDATED information on how to become an affective and effective self-actualized individual BULLCRAP BUSTER.
I have already discussed at length how NOT to be intimidated or manipulated by BULLYING. [See the web pages entitled “Cyber Bullying, Physical Bullying, Emotional Bullying, and Mental Bullying” in this BullCrap Busters Website for further details].
However, being that most of the people on planet Earth either out of ignorance or out of indifference have chosen to be contributors to the perpetuation and reinforcement of the insane asylum so-called social structure that I refer to as the Bully Culture, it is NOT always doable to fight back against the BULLYING.
The question is, how does one know when it is beneficial to oneself to confront bullying and when it is detrimental to oneself to fight back against bullying? The question may seem complicated but the answer is rather simple. In order to be victorious over the enemy, which is bullying, one has to know how the enemy, which is the bully, operates.
The bully gets away with bullying by playing what I call the Lick Butt Kick Butt game. [See the portion entitled ‘The Lick Butt Kick Butt Syndrome” in the web page called “Introduction” of the BullCrap Busters website for further details.] What this means is that the bully has to know when it is okay to be a bully and when it is not okay to be a bully in order to get away with being a bully. If the bully victimizes others in such a way that he gets caught being a bully, then game over. The bully will have to pay for his bullying ways by for instance losing his job, getting a divorce, going to prison, etc.
While it is true that those of us who are aspiring BullCrap Busters have “right” on our side, we too, ironically, have to play by the same Lick Butt Kick Butt rules that the bully, who has “wrong” on his side has to abide by. Why? Because we all live in a Bully Culture! Since we do not live in a Humane Society, in order to survive we have to live by the Bully Culture’s double standards. But while the bully does it to get away with bullying, we do it to get away with liberating ourselves from being victimized by bullying.
That being said, in order to avoid being caught in the trap of “No good deed shall go unpunished”, we, too, just like the bully, have to figure out in what instances we can confront bullying and in what instances we cannot. This means that there will be times and places when you must NOT do anything to fight back against bullying. For if you do you will not live to fight another day.
An obvious example is, do NOT confront your boss who is a bully or you will no longer have a job...that is unless and until LAWS have been enacted that protect you as a worker from a bully boss, such as the law that does NOT permit an employer to sexually molest an employee. Being that you have the LAW on your side, you do NOT have to fight back all alone. Consequently, it is safe to sue that PHYSICAL BULLY boss in court. [See the Physical Bullying web page of the BullCrap Busters website for more details on how to fight back against physical bullying].
But what about the bullying situations that are not so transparent where by you do not have any LAWS to protect you against such bullying? Such as how do you know when to fight back and when NOT to fight back against the EMOTIONAL BULLY? For example you are a customer of a business that allows its workers to insult, lie to, gang up upon, gossip about, etc., its patrons and for NO other reason than to harass them. And if the client does not pass the “docility test” of permitting himself to be disrespected by the business for nothing, the business escalates the conflict.
Whether or not you can fight back depends upon the circumstances.
On the one hand, if you, the consumer, has no other business entity to go to in order to get your consumer necessities met, then you must NOT fight back against the emotional bullying the business you are patronizing is victimizing you with.
[Reader’s Note: I am talking about needs here not wants. If a business is beating up upon your self-respect and all it has to offer you are things you want, then you can do without those cheap trinkets and reject the business by fighting back. Remember your dignity is priceless. Without it you are nothing.]
On the other hand, if you the consumer, has plenty of other business entities to go to in order to get your needs met, then you have what is referred to as walk-away power. This means that you can boycott – stop doing business with the bully business. That being the case, you CAN fight back against the emotional bullying. [See the Emotional Bullying web page of the BullCrap Busters website for more details on how to fight back against emotional bullying].
If you cannot stand not fighting back you can always mock the emotional bullying the monopoly business you have to patronise is victimizing you with by laughing at its bully cowards who victimise you with bullying. You can get away with laughing because laughing, in and of itself, is an ambiguous form of communication. What this means is that the bully cowards cannot punish you for doing so by for instance refusing to do business with you since they will not know if you are laughing with them or at them. And no bully coward is going to ask you. For if he does, you can make a fool out of him by denying that you are making fun of him for bullying you when, truth be told, you are making fun of him for bullying you.
Of course, when it comes to MENTAL BULLYING you can fight back against your own inner bully any when, where, what, how, why, or who time and place you need and want to. [See the Mental Bullying web page of the BullCrap Busters website for more details on how to fight back against mental bullying]